Posted by Theresa on September 27, 1998 at 10:21:52:
In Reply to: Re: Self worth and infidelity posted by Emity on September 25, 1998 at 06:41:42:
Dear Emily:
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I'm sorry to hear
that you and your husband agreed to not speak to anyone. It is
through these difficult times that it helps to share our trials
with someone close, other than the one who injured us. Sometimes
too, by sharing our difficulties we receive suggestions and hear
the stories of others and their experiences, thereby receiving
their insight and wisdom from a road that they have been down before.
I'm wondering also if your husband doesn't want to receive counseling for
the same reasons. I cannot stress enough how important counseling is
right now. If he won't go, you go. And I wanted to say also that I
understand that you don't want your whole story plastered all over the
church. You don't have to tell your pastor the whole story. You could
just say that you would like him/her to refer you to a Christian marriage
counselor. Period. If you aren't ready to share more, just say, "I would
feel more comfortable at this point, to talk to a counselor." If he is a
good pastor, he will not try to coerce you into talking to him, but will
just try to make sure you know he is available to talk to you whenever you
are ready.
God bless you and I hope that this week is a good one, without a lot of pain
and images. I'll be praying for you.
Theresa