Posted by Emily on October 09, 1998 at 13:53:29:
In Reply to: Re: Self worth and infidelity posted by Theresa on October 06, 1998 at 17:53:52:
T,
My Anniversary was perfect. Admitedly some old images popped into my head a few times but I did like you said and truned them over to Jesus. He took care of them.
It was a beautiful day. I arrived at work to find 5 long stem peach roses ( my favorite) on my desk. After I got home - I found my husband waiting in front of a craking fire on a bed of soft pillows and blankets. Some deliciously romantic candels lit about the room. I brought with me a card that I had craftly made on the computer at work and he had his own that he had worked on all night. Each of us had said in the cards what you just can't find at Hallmark. I also brought a cake that we cut and shared just like our wedding. You can use your imagination about what happend next. Needless to say we did not get alot of sleep!
From the whole experience I learned that that will be good days and sometimes perfect days for us. I gained new confidence in my ability to please my husband and I think he felt the same about me. We both talked about alot of things - even doing another marriage ceramony some time in the future to re-affirm our vows. We already did a private one of our own. I don't know who it meant more to. Me- because it was like closing one chapter and starting another. Or my husband who felt like he really had a clean slate and that we were starting over and not just dwendling down until we broke apart.
I remember when it had only been 7 months for me - I was also pregnant at the time so I'm not sure how much was hormones and how much was pain -- but I was an absolute wrek most of the time. When my husband would say "I love you" my answer would be "I hope so". Now over a year later I know so! Don't give up Theresa -- it does get better. Just let go of thinking that it will the same and quit trying to make it like it used to be. Learn to love each other all over again -- start over from scratch. And most of all -- It will be worth it if you truly love each other.