Posted by MD on August 10, 1998 at 17:40:43:
Just found out my wife was having an affair. We have beautiful twin
girls (2 1/2 years old), and I would like to keep the family together.
I love my wife very much and have forgiven her. However, why is it
that the victims are the only ones hurting. Just look at this message
board. Where are all the ones that committed the "crime". I
am not perfect. I could have made my wife feel prettier, more loved,
important, etc. She gave up a career temporarily to raise our children.
I think she misses feeling important. She just turned thirty and has
been obsessed with looking pretty. I am at peace with the fact that I
have been a good man. I treat her with respect,
we have fun together, I have loved her, our intimate life seemed good.
She says these things herself and yet she made the decision to do what
she did. It just seems like I'm the one hurting and seeking counsel
just like everybody else in this group. Where are our mates??? I am
turning to God. She feels guilty and is not pursuing God even with my
urging and encouragement.