Posted by Mike on August 27, 1998 at 20:25:04:
In Reply to: Why are only victims here posted by MD on August 10, 1998 at 17:40:43:
MD,
There are not just victims here. I committed adultery against my wife Christi and we are both here trying to work through the horrible mess I have created. A spouse does not make their mate commit adultery. If an adulterer cannot face this fact then he/she will never change. I love my wife and have changed my life into one that is truly worthy of my wife's love and trust. It's really that simple to do but is the most difficult thing for the offended spouse to accept. I will stay by my wife's and not allow myself to be anything like I was. I only pray that she'll come to know me for the good man I am today and forever will be. I am sorry that so many spouses turn and run while blaming their mate for driving them to someone else. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Believe in this and believe in the sanctity of love and you will find peace. People change and they do so for the right reasons. Those who don't change will see the error of their ways later in life.
Best wishes for your recovery,
Mike