Posted by Kylie on January 01, 1999 at 11:45:00:
In Reply to: I betrayed posted by matt on December 30, 1998 at 12:39:02:
Perhaps you could write a long and loving letter of apology. Then you must carry on your life without her. There could be the possibility that she will accept your apology and forgive you but you must also realize that it is also a very real chance that it won't happen. In the meantime, carry on life without harrassing her or her family. Having said your apologies and explanations in the letter it would be best to just back off. I know that this will be difficult but you must go on with your life. You will go through all sorts of stages of grieving and anger and hurt. I'm very sure that she will, too. But you cannot force her to take you back or even forgive you.
Your situation is very heartbreaking and sad. It is not easy to tell someone to back off and go on with life, but personally, in this case it could well be your best alternative. You can always pray that down the road when wounds heal and ammends are made that you two can start over again but you must realize that could possibly never happen either.