Posted by Doug Showalter on September 05, 1998 at 22:35:28:
In Reply to: Adultry posted by Shari on August 31, 1998 at 20:28:20:
Dear Shari,
It certainly seems as though you have been through a lot. I think Victoria's message to you is a good one, and a caring one.
I would very much encourage you to seek professional counseling. You have so many issues to deal with, which you have mentioned in your message. And, apparently, at this time you are especially in need of emotional support as you face the possible prospect of divorce--though perhaps it won't come to that.
I agree with Victoria. Be good to yourself. Also, reach out for help. And yes, you can go on and have a good life without your husband--if that what is what comes to be. People sometimes forget it, especially after they have been married for a number of years, but the fact is that none of us was born married. Prior to marriage, we all had lives as single people. And we can do it again if we have to--even if being single is not the choice we would make, if the choice was entirely ours alone to make.
I will keep you in my prayers,
Doug Showalter