Posted by Victoria on September 05, 1998 at 03:14:16:
In Reply to: Adultry posted by Shari on August 31, 1998 at 20:28:20:
Shari, please know that a lot of people care
but sometimes they don't know what to say.
well, i am going to try.
First of all, take the time to care for yourself.
You are alright by yourself. Some people, I am one example,
need to learn the hard way how to love themselves
and take care of themselves and feel whole.
Right now you're self-esteem is very low and you think you
can't go on living without him. Believe me,
YOU CAN and YOU WILL. At this point, your husband is
hurting and feeling betrayed- that's a normal reaction
and he needs time to himself. Let him be.
Concentrate now on yourself - I hope you have the financial resources
to be able to live and survive on your own
physically. If not, please ask for help.
When you have taken cared of your physical
situation (food, shelter etc.) then you can
concentrate on your emotional healing.
I can't tell you how but I pray that God will send
you individuals who will help you. Meanwhile
will you promise to be your own best friend?
Do what makes you feel good. Don't think of him..
think of yourself first.
Please take care of yourself. Love yourself
you are complete and you do not need another person
to make you whole.
I will include you in my prayers.
keep writing. I care and I understand- I've been there too.
And i've forgiven myself and accepted God's forgiveness.
It will take awhile (it took me years) but don't waste your
precious years. I hope you will learn form my mistake and
forgive yourself faster and get on with your life.
Life is still good.
Shari- you are okay and God loves you.