Posted by Christi on August 27, 1998 at 17:48:46:
In Reply to: Adultery. What do I do now? posted by Lyn on August 27, 1998 at 08:31:35:
Lyn,
I am going through something similar (Christi Aug.24) and want you to know that I sympathize with you in having a tremendous decision to make. Although I would never recommed staying together JUST for the children's sake, it can be a deciding factor if you are on the fence. The scary thing about your husband's lies is that he continues to come to you with more revelations. It is as if he is testing the waters with each new piece of information until he can determine that the "big one" will be something you can handle.
I wonder how many more incidents he has yet to tell you about? Unfortunately, for both you and I, WE are the only ones who can decide if we can live with and move forward from these broken promises and broken hearts. My prayers are with you and your children during this terrible time. Be strong and ask the Lord for guidance. He wants you to be happy, so don't feel bad about staying in a difficult marriage you want to make work, or about starting a new life without the man who broke his vows to you.
Some good advise I received from Rev. Showerman: Don't give up on your marriage UNLESS and UNTIL you are sure that is what is right for you. Do as much "soul-searching" about a separation as you did about your marriage. Good luck to you.
Christi