Posted by Sandy X on August 04, 1998 at 19:36:47:
In Reply to: the pain of adultry posted by christine on July 29, 1998 at 20:49:02:
Pain - It get easier with time. My posts are at the bottom now because its been 3 years since my husband cheated on me. He was with someone else after being married 15 years.
I too, lost so much weight. Not just weight two back teeth because by body was so weak it was weaking my teeth and bones. I did not have the weight to loose (a couple pounds was nice but not this much) I am now feeling better, I sleep at night and have put back on 10 lbs. My face has color and I'm not so tired.
Its a struggle, but hopefully you all can make it. I gave my husband so much. We did everything together. As our children got older I felt pressure off me and our relationship was at its best! (Or at least I thought) BOOM the bomb is dropped. He told me. Why??? is a big question he still says I always loved you. "I even told her that". His relationship with her was very brief. I honestely didn't have a clue. I asked him why he told me. She threatened if He didn't come back she would call me. And the calling started.
I do love him and I know he loves me. And he is very sorry. I everyone deserves a second chance. We give our children second and third chances don't we? Its an unconditional love.
I guess resisting temptation is hard. I've been asked out but never had the want to be with anyone else but my husband. I don't understand how he could have done this to me.
If God can forgive him I will give him a second chance. I give my marriage 100% and he gives 200% that means something. We might have had a good marriage before but now we have a great marriage. He pays attention to the little things that I always thought he never seen and tells me how great this and that are.
If your spouses, are good people inside its worth staying and making things better.
You just need Time - that has worked for me.
My husband and I are more in love than when we were first marriage - We have more respect and togetherness. Trust-As much as he is going to get. I do have resentment. So that means I have to keep on working on it.
Did this help? I hope so. Make sure you don't loose your health.
I will pray for all of you and me.