Posted by Sunnyday on May 04, 1998 at 23:32:57:
In Reply to: cannot forget posted by POBrien on May 01, 1998 at 00:24:07:
Dear POBrien,
I just want you to know you are not alone in this situation. I've been to a similar place. My ex cheated on me and our two very young children 16 months ago. It was inconceivable to me, also. I wish i could tell you it will all be better next year at this time, but the truth is, it still hurts. The good news is it doesn't hurt nearly as bad. I have come to really understand the meaning of that saying, "everything happens for a reason." While the marriage is over, my ex has become a much better father than he ever was when he lived with us. I have gone back to school and have made new friends that perhaps I wouldn't have made. I see a future for me and my kids. It's not the one I had hoped for and dreamed about...but it's mine. The best advice I can offer you is to make somehting your own at this time. Take up something you always wanted to do, but never did. It may seem like one more thing is the last thing you need right now, but doing something positive and productive for yourself will help your self esteem...and remember, no matter what, God never gives us more than we can handle...he's there with the strength we need if we just ask. I will say a prayer for you and your girls...you can E-mail me anytime. You will get through this...Take care...