Posted by annonomous on August 20, 1998 at 10:13:29:
In Reply to: Re: Adultry, how can I forgive when I cant forget? posted by Bill on August 15, 1998 at 23:09:20:
I have had an affair on my husband, we have 3 beautiful children and married 10 years. The affair, wasn't sexual, I needed emotional support. Yes, it is wrong, very wrong to goto another person (man or woman)and cross the marital line of vows once stated. I've made a horrible mistake & would change it and turn back the clock anytime. I've gone to church & am still going to find answers or reasons for my distruction. My husband is trying to work things out, but ...he feels the same as everyone in this column. I search the computer, books, and find God is the only hope. I find that men & women communicate so differently, which is normal but also we all need to listen and understand the real meaning to our words. I tried to communicate what our marriage needed, or what I needed in our relationship, but felt my husband didn't want to help or meet any needs. I felt he kept blowing me off & my words were demeaning. Having an affair is absolutely worng. Searching for another person to listen--is wrong. I'm trying to communicate better, but since the affair, we both feel like, Why should HE change or listen when I made the worse mistake of of. I feel for all of you! Honestly. Inside I burn and hate myself. Looking at my husband just kills me. I would love to take his pain, for I deserve it. HOwever, we both need counseling. I'm trying to receive help through the church and other centers. I just wish he would.