Posted by christine on August 04, 1998 at 19:02:25:
In Reply to: Re: the pain of adultry posted by Ken on August 04, 1998 at 17:09:56:
Dear Ken,
It's so hard to imagine that so many of us have been hurt by the betrayal of someone we loved. I have always known that a marriage is like a precious vase. If you break it, you might be able to glue it back together but it will never be new again. I guess what we are both trying to decide is if the repaired version can still bring happiness. Like you, I didn't eat for 2 months and had all I could do to hold down water. I still only sleep half the night and then spend the other half with my demons. I know that I should force the negativity out with positive thoughts but in the dark in the middle of the night, that's hard to do. I hope that time does diminish this pain, both for you and for myself. Hang in there. Your situation sounds similar to mine. We sound about the same age and we both have been married a long time. It's hard to simply end more than half your life. I understand and I care. If you would like to purge yourself of the details, I would be glad to listen at my personal e-mail address.
Christine